Sometimes, I think about how on earth I thought I was ‘busy’ before I had Bastian? I truly thought my life was crammed to the brim with daily tasks. And while it was, I definitely had a lot more downtime than I thought I did. One of the things that I’ve had to consciously work on since becoming a mother, is to create peace in my life.
I absolutely love being a mom. I love seeing Bastian smiling when he wakes up in the morning, because he’s so happy to see me walk through the door. And I love watching him try new foods. Watching him crawl around explore the world has given me a whole new appreciation for the world around me.
Amongst all of the chaos, I have had to strive to create peace. Both within our home, and within myself. Because it’s a conscious effort, it’s not always easy. I don’t always have the opportunity to sit back and decompress.
In my home, I feel peace when I allow myself to ignore the mess. Sometimes, I get around to doing the dishes and folding the laundry. Other times, I don’t. And it’s way too easy to get wrapped up in all of that, and feel like I am inadequate. Ideally, I’d be able to clean my whole house and then sit back, feeling peaceful. Again, that would be ideal. Things aren’t always ideal. To find peace, in our home, I will clean just the room I’m in, and allow myself to feel peace there. I’ll get to everything else when Seth is home from work, and I have reinforcements. By tidying the living room, I allow myself to pretend things are cleaner, and therefore, more peaceful.
I also love candles. I know not everyone feels peace through the same things. For me, candles help me clear my mind, and help me relax. Unwind. Find peace. When I’m having a particularly hard day, you can find me with a few different candles lit throughout my home.
Peace is a state of mind. It helps to have my home feel peaceful, in order to feel peaceful in my mind. Stressing about tasks that aren’t done or my never ending to do list, only make the problem worse. It’s okay, to compartmentalize the things in your life that are unorganized, and then focus on feeling the peace.
I’m not perfect, and there are a lot of days where I feel frazzled and frustrated. One of the things I’m focusing on, this year, is to try to create peace, no matter the situation. I am still learning, and still seeking ways to feel peace more often. If you have any ways you are able to create peace in your homes, I would love to hear!